Saturday, May 20, 2017



  1. the action or fact of leaving one's job and ceasing to work . . .

. . . only to then be called upon to do everyone else’s work.

My daughter, who is moving into a new apartment, called to ask if I could paint it for her. She asked by saying “since I have to work 50 hours this week and you are home all day, would you mind ...”  

Jim, a casual acquaintance, recently had open heart surgery and cannot drive for a few weeks. A mutual friend called and asked “Jim needs a ride to a doctor’s appointment.  He asked me but since you are retired, and live closer, would you mind taking him?”  Which of course I did, but now Jim calls me every other day asking for a ride to the grocery store or could I pick up his meds.” Every time he says “Isn’t retirement great, to have all day to do whatever?”

A friend called to ask if I could come over and rototill her garden “in my spare time”  And then she laughed and said “I suppose you have nothing BUT spare time these days.”

Why is it that when you retire everyone thinks you have nothing to do?  They think my days are like this:

In all honestly I didn’t mind doing any of these favors for people.  But I do kind of resent the implication that now that I’ve retired I do nothing but sit around, twiddling my thumbs, waiting for someone to call and give me something to do. I already volunteered 2- 6 hours a week doing errands for the elderly.  I have a yard and gardens to tend, a house that always needs fixing, household projects, a never ending “honey-do” list, relationships to nourish, vacations to plan.  In fact, I still haven’t found the time to do the things I thought I would like practicing the piano, reading and writing more, taking an interesting college class or daily taking my dog on different hiking trails.

I retired to have the time to do the things I want to do, not to pick up everyone else’s chores.


Rant over.


  1. Replies
    1. No, I like saying yes. I just don't care for the assumption of retired = lazy.

  2. Just tell them you are busy, which will be the truth. How rude for them to imply that a retired person doesn't have a full life, and to think your time is theirs to schedule.

    1. Again, I don't mind being asked - I have certainly done my fair share of asking in the past and it will probably increase as I age. It's the assumptions that bother me.

  3. Thanks for the heads up! I'm already getting questions like 'What will you do with all that time?'... NO WORRIES, PEOPLE! I will fill that time! So many projects, so much to do!

    Here's my suggestion: create an online calendar and fill it with your own stuff first, then ask people to check it on line when they want to book your time. HA!!!

    I'm right behind you, taking notes.

    1. Strangely I am finding it difficult to fit everything into my day. But the nice thing is the knowledge that I still (hopefully) have tomorrow to get them done.

      What will you do with all that time? Come east and visit!!!

  4. A favor now and then is one thing, calling every other day, that is quite another.

    e has a good idea. Saying no or even offering an alternative, thereby planting the idea that you are not just waiting for their call to action, but rather need to fit their stuff into your schedule.

    Presumptuousness: passively, agressively rude.

    1. Fortunately the heart patient has now received permission to drive so he has stopped calling. But you're right, I need to find a way to gently say "when I have some free time I will be happy to help."

  5. I am planning to be very selective about which favors I agree to when I retire.