Last year I made a resolution to pay more attention to my relationship with Martha. We have now been together for well over 30 years (!) and like most long term relationships, things had gotten into predictable patterns, both good and bad. So I made a concerted effort to outwardly appreciate all she does to keep our household running and I bit the inside on my cheeks when she loaded the dishwasher in ways a drunk toddler could have done better, or once again left tissues in her pockets that shredded in a million pieces when I did the laundry. I started each day with a cheerful smile and an encouraging word and ended each night with a show of appreciation and affection.
Did it make a difference? To our relationship? Honestly, not really. But it did have a profound effect on me. Being more patient, more grateful, and more aware definitely changed my overall demeanor. Instead of letting little things nag at me, I let them go. And I went to sleep thankful and content and woke up happy. It is a practice I hope to continue, not for us, but for me.
Around xmas I began to think of what my 2024 resolution should be. My daughters and I went to a performance of The Nutcracker by the Boston Ballet at the stunningly beautiful Boston Opera House. While waiting for the performance to begin, I read the program about the company and cast. In it, the Executive Director said this”
“The Nutcracker is not just what you see on stage - it’s about cherishing time with those you love”
And I thought “of course”, my resolution should be to extend this practice to everyone. Try to Be Present. Be Patient. Be Quiet. Choose love, always. To everyone. For me.
So, that’s it. Happy 2024*
*And exercise more, eat better and lose a few pounds : )
