tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post4814699912537941659..comments2024-03-22T15:51:18.453-04:00Comments on 8th Day: The Problem With Not Having Breasts8thdayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-24778062687167081322013-05-28T07:16:13.984-04:002013-05-28T07:16:13.984-04:00Thanks Maria. As much as I am struggling with thi...Thanks Maria. As much as I am struggling with this particular loss, the good thing is that after 20 ++ years together, this is forcing us to change up the old familiar routines. And that is probably a very good thing. 8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-65442492742505769842013-05-28T07:14:07.289-04:002013-05-28T07:14:07.289-04:00They now probably make packs designed just for wom...They now probably make packs designed just for women, but I cannot give up my old, tried and true pack.<br /><br />My straps now lie more comfortably, but the bigggest plus was the chest strap, which I can now cinch tighter, and in a better location, which has given the pack a lot more stability on rough terrain. 8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-33163930005011485572013-05-27T19:02:57.937-04:002013-05-27T19:02:57.937-04:00My sister had breast cancer six years ago and unde...My sister had breast cancer six years ago and underwent a double mastectomy and she has been cancer free ever since. She says that she loved feeling unencumbered with breasts (she was rather well endowed) but had the same problems that you talk about regarding sex. She said that she hadn't realized how much her breasts were part of her sexual pleasure. She and her husband found ways around itMariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05049511202014141182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-10592556552368350862013-05-26T19:45:44.614-04:002013-05-26T19:45:44.614-04:00I love your list of positives - the backpack item ...I love your list of positives - the backpack item is particularly interesting since I never thought about how my breasts might actually be what's wrong with my backpacks and it's not that I can't find the right one to fit my body! Epiphany!<br /><br />There are challenges in everything, I guess. I'm glad Martha has been understanding, silver linings...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-72420203953878876572013-05-25T09:29:17.287-04:002013-05-25T09:29:17.287-04:00Congrats on the house! Wow, that is great news. ...Congrats on the house! Wow, that is great news. (although I will miss the sweet image of your family in that little yellow house)8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-59927246687764174122013-05-24T19:05:55.790-04:002013-05-24T19:05:55.790-04:00I don't know that you meant it this way, but t...I don't know that you meant it this way, but this post was incredibly inspiring to me. Thank you for sharing every part of this post. (Also, it's so great to read and catch up on you and all of my bloggy friends, I've been out of commission while house-hunting and it's so great to be back here. And I got a nice house!)MakingSpacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09512337949478137031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-35030706762551606602013-05-24T13:01:34.686-04:002013-05-24T13:01:34.686-04:00Wow, thanks for going back and commenting!
I am m...Wow, thanks for going back and commenting!<br /><br />I am making a big sign to hang up that says THIS IS NOT A DORM!!!<br /><br />And I'm definitely going to try layering the tanks. Could work. <br /><br />And thank you for your kind words on the teacher thing. I am beginning to understand that just sharing some of my stories can help others who are going through similar stuff. It is the8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-11244059678217342882013-05-24T12:51:14.126-04:002013-05-24T12:51:14.126-04:00Well, my breasts were never big enough to suffocat...Well, my breasts were never big enough to suffocate me. I guess I should count that as a blessing too : )8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-59275212673474945842013-05-24T08:38:59.144-04:002013-05-24T08:38:59.144-04:00Okay - I just realized you started writing again -...Okay - I just realized you started writing again - so this will be a long winded comment - since I just caught up.<br /><br />1. bumper stickers - we don't have many around here - a few political (love the W 04 ones still on there), lots of club soccer ones and the occassional stick family. <br /><br />2. good for you going to the psychic - I have always wanted to go. I just want a good Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-21702039631642355742013-05-24T08:14:42.578-04:002013-05-24T08:14:42.578-04:00Your posts always embody a full range of human exp...Your posts always embody a full range of human experience. The joy and frustration of children returning from college. The humor and the grief of a double mastectomy. It is a refreshingly honest perspective.<br /><br />I particularly love your list of the benefits of not having breasts. I would add the benefit of not being suffocated while doing inverted yoga poses : )Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00878879338335090175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-82525965703505096632013-05-23T20:13:46.957-04:002013-05-23T20:13:46.957-04:00I think I need a butt lift : ) Gravity is not our...I think I need a butt lift : ) Gravity is not our friend!!!<br /><br />Yes, props to Martha - she has gotten me through a lot.<br /><br />And to answer your other question, here, because I think it is an interesting one - yes, I sometimes have that phantom breast feeling. After the surgery I often had shooting pains in my non-existent breasts and occasionally still do. Sometimes I think I can 8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-56262663044988214142013-05-23T19:57:41.465-04:002013-05-23T19:57:41.465-04:00Thanks! I think I am doing well.
I can understand...Thanks! I think I am doing well.<br /><br />I can understand what your friend is going through - I think it would feel much more disfiguring to be so unbalanced. The removal of only one breast seems so short-sighted, and cruel to me (unless a woman is still of child bearing years.) 8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-51751781366040713242013-05-23T19:53:11.554-04:002013-05-23T19:53:11.554-04:00My massage therapist told me that since they cut t...My massage therapist told me that since they cut through the fascia (sp?) layer that there is a natural slouching of flesh that occurs after mastectomy. Thus the mid section tends to puff out more. I am thinking I need one of those inversion tables and maybe I could get gravity to work the other way.<br /><br />I have pictures that show the lumpiness much better but they were pretty horrendous 8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-41026936469370415352013-05-23T18:58:34.096-04:002013-05-23T18:58:34.096-04:00Well, for what it's worth, I'm totally get...Well, for what it's worth, I'm totally getting implants (teeth!) the minute I can afford them. And (yes) a mini-lift. Because I don't like how I look and I've decided since I can change it, I will. <br /><br />That said, I can understand not wanting more surgery at the moment. <br /><br />As far as Martha is concerned, props to her for wanting to find other erogenous zones. And Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-20890464712846786032013-05-23T18:46:42.910-04:002013-05-23T18:46:42.910-04:00I have a friend whose insurance would only cover t...I have a friend whose insurance would only cover the removal of one breast. She has had major body image issues that have resulted in severe depression. <br /><br />I think you are doing remarkably well, both physically and emotionally. How strong you are to share both the picture and the honest emotional implications of this drastic surgery.<br /><br />I agree with e - grieving is healthy, mattynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-604630111070958672013-05-23T18:01:40.426-04:002013-05-23T18:01:40.426-04:00Of course you are dealing with it... that's wh...Of course you are dealing with it... that's what survivors do.<br /><br />I am impressed at Martha, and really both of you, on your mission to find other erogenous areas. That is such a positive way to look at something difficult. Good for you for not giving up.<br /><br />In the meantime, grieving for your breasts sounds healthy. I joke sometimes that I would love to have them off, but ehttp://plufrompdx.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com