tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post3700720378191159934..comments2024-03-22T15:51:18.453-04:00Comments on 8th Day: Becoming A Student8thdayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-30301974823900804642016-01-30T14:27:23.649-05:002016-01-30T14:27:23.649-05:00I have been asked the same thing by therapists... ...I have been asked the same thing by therapists... about the anger, which I don't feel I have. Then say suppressed anger is depression, which I DO suffer from, so maybe that's what happened to the anger. I don't know, I just don't really relate to anger. I feel it is akin to giving up one's power. Maybe I'm wrong, who knows.Barbara/myth makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08606854813691778835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-34779859938968570562016-01-23T20:46:21.674-05:002016-01-23T20:46:21.674-05:00:-) :-) Middle Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12334580430376973159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-92148129943543347582016-01-23T20:45:17.844-05:002016-01-23T20:45:17.844-05:00that should be when you get to the place where you...that should be when you get to the place where you are NOT swamped in your wounds... Tree Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07982787927704665380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-28124772028804461152016-01-23T20:44:45.399-05:002016-01-23T20:44:45.399-05:00Wow, I'm impressed with all the insights here....Wow, I'm impressed with all the insights here. I have my own memory issues, ptsd, etc. But rather than burying my anger, I can ride it, which has it's own shadow and challenge. Good points here about control. And yes, I totally agree that when you get to the place that you are swamped in your wounds... it is so much easier to continue healing work. It is different. Not "easy&Tree Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07982787927704665380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-56340395800444838582016-01-23T18:44:40.222-05:002016-01-23T18:44:40.222-05:00You feel like pushing me down the cellar stairs?!?...You feel like pushing me down the cellar stairs?!?!?! (kidding)<br /><br />Honestly, I have never felt like ripping a room apart. I've never ever fantasized about physically hurting anyone. Or revenge. I think that is the point - that somewhere I missed (or buried) anger. Even today I sometimes get pissed that some of those old injuries still haunt me, I'm not really angry. I'm 8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-68326174646571380312016-01-23T18:33:06.412-05:002016-01-23T18:33:06.412-05:00Thanks. I keep thinking the more I learn the bett...Thanks. I keep thinking the more I learn the better off I am against future weirdness. I am ready for the adventure.8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-59746245858554610762016-01-23T14:58:03.769-05:002016-01-23T14:58:03.769-05:00i think anger is healthy, especially in transition...i think anger is healthy, especially in transitions, and as long as it's not pointed inward or it becomes consuming. for me, i always remind myself that there is a world of difference between feeling and doing. i may feel like pushing you down the cellar stairs but i don't act on it! <br /><br />what happened to you was horrible and you have every right to be furious about it. i'd kjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-5758991431128292042016-01-22T22:54:59.061-05:002016-01-22T22:54:59.061-05:00Your have quite the adventure ahead. Sounds like y...Your have quite the adventure ahead. Sounds like you have quite the capable guide. It feels like you have the mettle to make take the trip. <br /><br />Congratulations. Much luck. So courageous. Middle Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12334580430376973159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-87873190086123958452016-01-22T18:59:16.704-05:002016-01-22T18:59:16.704-05:00I have known panic attacks, but mostly withdrawal....I have known panic attacks, but mostly withdrawal. Anger is something very new and strange to me. Scary yes. I am both terrified and full of hopeful anticipation to be opening new doors. I am also extremely grateful to feel so supported in my quest. Thanks for stopping by.8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-62267120626558799182016-01-22T18:51:43.571-05:002016-01-22T18:51:43.571-05:00What you say makes a lot of sense. I am looking f...What you say makes a lot of sense. I am looking forward to learning more about the relationship between control and anger and hopefully become a little easier to live with - easier for myself and for my family.8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-14204319784410459642016-01-22T18:48:02.515-05:002016-01-22T18:48:02.515-05:00I don't think Leah is going to be much of a ch...I don't think Leah is going to be much of a cheerleader, but I have you for that : )<br /><br />I was going to write that my other half has no difficulty in pointing out my flaws, but to be fair, she has put up with a lot of my crazy so I tried to say it kindly : )<br /><br />I don't think anger looks very good on me so I hope whatever I find, it will work itself out gently. Core of iron8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-1331649359569959512016-01-22T18:40:39.157-05:002016-01-22T18:40:39.157-05:00I have come to believe that sharing our stories, o...I have come to believe that sharing our stories, our victories and our defeats, helps us all to heal. Thank you for sharing your story and for the hugs. 8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-78621640939677858282016-01-22T09:48:35.918-05:002016-01-22T09:48:35.918-05:00Thank you for your kind comment on my blog. When I...Thank you for your kind comment on my blog. When I read this post, I could definitely relate. I am working on anger in therapy as well. I'm terrified of anger being directed outward, so it usually comes out at myself in the form of panic attacks, or self harm. I was not allowed to be angry growing up. It definitely takes time to access and redirect in a healthy way. You are doing the hard Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05748840293468845389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-13513377631685396732016-01-22T09:36:17.400-05:002016-01-22T09:36:17.400-05:00I agree with Lily Cedar about control and anger be...I agree with Lily Cedar about control and anger being related. When you have been dehumanized, it is hard to trust the world. Instead, we try to control it. That is the first order of business. It isn't like you only experienced injustice, you experienced evil. Allowing yourself to feel anger implies trusting the world long enough to let your guard down so you can experience that complex and Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-62067592818368047882016-01-22T09:14:16.919-05:002016-01-22T09:14:16.919-05:00I am so glad that you are continuing to work on yo...I am so glad that you are continuing to work on your healing. It's hard, yes, but every step forward is reclaiming your life. And, you've come so far! I love the attitude you are bringing to this round of therapy. Student of yourself, indeed.<br /><br />I hope you told Leah how amazing it is for you to be able to tell the story calmly, how that is a victory all by itself. I want her ehttp://plufrompdx.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-45089574134174738332016-01-22T08:05:14.008-05:002016-01-22T08:05:14.008-05:00I would be angry as well. I was sexually assaulte...I would be angry as well. I was sexually assaulted by a doctor at work once and I took kick boxing for six months to help work out my anger. I spent six month in my imagination kicking the shit out of that doctor. <br /><br />I'm so sorry this happened to you. It makes me to sick to know that human beings can act like this. Even though I know it to be true, it still makes me feel sick. I My life so farhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16721270441968035994noreply@blogger.com