tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post2557296867705480225..comments2024-03-22T15:51:18.453-04:00Comments on 8th Day: Needing Advice8thdayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-41159319303344584722010-07-13T13:01:48.242-04:002010-07-13T13:01:48.242-04:00I have encountered this with my 16 year old. I th...I have encountered this with my 16 year old. I think it depends on the secret, if it is something serious or that could be potentially harmful to the child, you may want to calmly discuss with your partner...if however, it is something that doesn't really warrant a 'red flag' I'd keep your promise.<br /><br />Recently, my 16 year old shared something with me and I didn't tell*https://www.blogger.com/profile/02433699256471235713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-27569817394595439952010-07-09T08:20:33.858-04:002010-07-09T08:20:33.858-04:00Thanks everybody for all your collective wisdom. ...Thanks everybody for all your collective wisdom. It has helped me considerably.<br /><br />I have decided to talk to Beanie and explain to her why I feel it's important that Martha be in the loop. I am hopeful that she will agree. If she doesn't, I have decided to keep her confidence. As much as I don't like keeping things from Martha, it is probably more important, in this 8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-19416562445385716632010-07-08T16:55:12.307-04:002010-07-08T16:55:12.307-04:00FWIW, I agree with e and Tina-cious.
The good new...FWIW, I agree with e and Tina-cious.<br /><br />The good news is that Beanie talked to you about it.<br /><br />Pax,<br />DoxyWormwood's Doxyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10882756844690851674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-52884747577789852802010-07-08T13:00:05.508-04:002010-07-08T13:00:05.508-04:00I agree with E but I would tell Beanie that she sh...I agree with E but I would tell Beanie that she should tell Martha herself. Or that you'd go with her to tell Martha.<br /><br />If she doesn't want to -- you can offer to tell her for her... <br /><br />But tell her how you couldn't sleep over it because you felt like Martha has a right to know.<br /><br />I would not, under any circumstances, tell Martha without warning Beanie Landlady of Fathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06398567504134200832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-36049802074004706422010-07-08T10:54:55.601-04:002010-07-08T10:54:55.601-04:00Here's what I would do. I would talk to Beani...Here's what I would do. I would talk to Beanie and say, "I have to tell Martha. This is too important. She is your other parent, after all, and loves you and will need to know." Then I would ask her to come with me to tell Martha. <br /><br />These are the times that try a mother's soul. And heart. And spirit.<br /><br />Big Hugs!ehttp://plufrompdx.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-44089118134520917682010-07-08T10:03:58.562-04:002010-07-08T10:03:58.562-04:00greg - I did not promise her. When she asked me n...greg - I did not promise her. When she asked me not to tell Martha, I told her I would have to think about it. <br /><br />August - thanks for taking to time to comment. Fortunately, its not drugs, but you have given me something to think about.8thdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17139355263412766126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-52615463533839253362010-07-08T08:59:39.186-04:002010-07-08T08:59:39.186-04:00One story comes to mind. A friend's son came h...One story comes to mind. A friend's son came home for the summer following his first year of college with a big bag of weed. "I hope it's OK if I do this in the house sometimes," he asked his Mom, "I don't want there to be any secrets between us."<br /><br />Like you, my friend tossed and turned all night. The next morning, still unsure whether she was doing the Augusthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17070247510452938331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1931021721708713850.post-89056833955297488252010-07-08T08:58:06.707-04:002010-07-08T08:58:06.707-04:00A promise is a promise and if you do not stand by ...A promise is a promise and if you do not stand by your word with her, you truly will lose her trust. That's really tough to take. That said, I think the parents out there would be of better help than me with this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com